Ana Quincoces From 'RHOM' Reveals Which 'Housewives' Donated (Or Didn't Donate) to Reunion Dress Fundraiser

What began as a single dress being auctioned for charity exploded into a massive Bravo and Housewives effort with Ana Quincoces from The Real Housewives of Miami leading the charge.

Quincoces wanted to do something to help frontline workers during the pandemic. So she shared on Twitter that she planned to donate her green emerald dress from season 2. She then expanded the effort knowing that the Housewives franchise could make a significant difference.

Getting executive producer, Andy Cohen involved was a game-changer, which helped open the door to a slew of cast members. “The Real Housewives Reunion Dress Benefit Auction” is now offered on Charity Buzz. Fans can bid on an iconic frock or even a piece of memorabilia with proceeds going to #firstrespondersfirst. Quincoces dished about how the initiative exploded and which cast members were the most generous and who snubbed the auction.

The fundraiser helped ‘RHOM’ reconnect

Quincoces shared on the Behind the Velvet Rope with David Yontef podcast that the auction currently has 38 dresses. She said the efforts sparked her to get back in touch with former castmates. But it also provided a gateway to connect with others she’s never spoken to previously.

Her initial post was just a tweet where she tagged Cohen. In the tweet, Quincoces asked all Housewives to consider donating their reunion dress for the auction. “Then Andy contacted me and said he really liked the idea and [asked] how he could support,” she recalls. “And then I started reaching out to as many ladies as I could.”

RELATED: ‘RHOM’: Where Are the Original Miami Housewives Today?

Before the fundraiser was in the press, Adriana De Moura, Joanna Krupa and Karent Sierra from RHOM instantly wanted to be involved. Quincoces sent a text message to Marysol Patton and Alexia Echevarria. “I hadn’t spoken to Marysol in years, Alexia I have spoken to more regularly but not often either,” she says. They both then reached out to Quincoces and most of the cast is back in touch as a result.

These ‘Housewives’ gave generously

Quincoces says most of the RHOM cast gave a reunion dress for the fundraiser. She also connected with Heather Dubrow from The Real Housewives of Orange County. Quincoces said, “She’s cool [about Dubrow], I’ve always liked her. And then she contacted Tamra [Judge] for me.”

Also Sutton Stracke from The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills immediately sent something for the auction. She said Stracke’s dress is not Dolce & Gabbana but is “cool.” Also Dina and Caroline Manzo from The Real Housewives of New Jersey offered a dress. She says the casts from RHONJ, RHOC, and RHOM have been very generous.

RELATED: ‘RHONY’: Kristen Taekman Gets Shady About Sonja Morgan’s Fashion Show

Sonja Morgan from The Real Housewives of New York City was especially giving. “Sonja sent me four dresses,” Quincoces exclaimed. They are all Sonja By Sonja Morgan and Quincoces is digging the fit. “I’m impressed with those dresses,” she says.

She also opened it up to more than just reunion dresses. Lynda Erkiletian from The Real Housewives of D.C. donated her reunion and promo dress. Cohen donated a suit “from one of his reunions.” Luann de Lesseps from RHONY also donated a statement necklace from her Countess Collection line.

Thus far Quincoces hasn’t heard much from these cast members

“I reached out to Lea [Black from RHOM]. I sent her a text message, I sent her a message on Twitter and you know … nothing,” she says. Quincoces was surprised she didn’t hear from Black. She shared that Black is very philanthropic with her foundation.

Also, “I don’t have anyone from [The Real Housewives of Atlanta], not a single person,” she says. “Which I’m sad about because Atlanta is such a big …” But she said Cohen made up for it by adding a signed reunion notecard from the Atlanta reunion to the auction.

RELATED: Rosie O’Donnell Calls Out Multi-Millionaire David Foster for Only Contributing $1,000 to The Actors Fund

LeeAnne Locken from The Real Housewives of Dallas said she’d participate, but Quincoces hadn’t received anything by the time she did the podcast. She adds there are other cast members who have also committed but haven’t sent anything. “Like Danielle Staub [from RHONJ],” she said. “I don’t know if she’s going to send it or not send it.”

“Kelly Dodd [from RHOC], I reached out to her several times and she’s in New York and she’s says already donated all her dresses,” she says. Also, Quincoces got the impression that Vicki Gunvalson from RHOC didn’t want to be part of it. She’s reached out to the team for Lisa Vanderpump from RHOBH but never heard back. However, she admits that she’s sent direct messages to cast members she doesn’t personally know. So she understands the messages may get lost in the flood of messages they receive.

Source: Read Full Article

Mum buys £2 boxes from Asda & fills them with treats to last a week to stop her kids endlessly snacking in lockdown

A MUM has shared the nifty way she stops her kids snacking all time using some £2 boxes from Asda.

With the kids now home everyday in the lockdown, the mum-of-three wanted to limit the amount of junk food they were eating. 

So she bought some boxes from the supermarket, which cost just £2 each, and filled them with their snacks for the whole week. 

Healthy food, such as fruit, is readily available for the 12, 10 and six-year-old, but if they want a sweet treat they have to do chores – and once the box is empty that’s it. 

She shared her genius idea to Facebook group Extreme Couponing and Bargains UK, showing three boxes filled with an assortment of goodies including Milkybar pots and Dairylea Dunkers. 

She said: “Decided to do snack boxes for the kids as during the lockdown the haven't stopped eating empty the fridge every couple days…

During the lockdown the haven't stopped eating

“This is week of treats 12yr 10yr 6yrs been doing this for a few weeks it going well they can snack on fruit as much as they like but chores for the treats…

“Picked up the boxes from asda £2.00 each.

“Thought I would add this my eldest has autism so he eats corned beef, not sweets it his taste. [sic]”

More than 3,000 people have liked her idea, as mums said they might copy it while adults admitted they wanted their own snack box.

Commenting online one person said: “Aw man I could sit and eat a box a night. Sod the kids! Lol.”

Another wrote: “Fantastic idea mine eat so much in snacks especially in the hot weather with light meals.”

A third thought: “I might have to start this for my 3 year old he is forever sneaking into the fridge lately stealing snacks and drinks.”

While someone else added: “I need one of these for myself. I'm 32.”

And another person raved: "Great idea well done."

Meanwhile a mum creates a simple ‘treat plate’ to get her ‘fussy eater’ son to try new food – and you can grab one from B&M for £6.

Plus this mum buys a vending machine, fills it with snacks & says it’s the best way to get kids doing their pocket money chores.

And this woman shared the ‘right’ way to close a crisp packet and it’s blowing people’s minds.

Source: Read Full Article

Christine From ‘Selling Sunset’ Clears Up All Those Rumors About How She Met Her Husband

In the newly released second season of Netflix’s Selling Sunset, rumors about how Christine Quinn met her then-fiance Christian Richard swirl early on. “It’s insulting to him as a man, and it’s insulting to us as a couple,” Christine says when Heather shares that Mary — or maybe it was Chrishell? Details are unimportant here — suggested she was “the other woman” when she began seeing Christian. By the end of the season, the accusation that there was "overlap" in their relationship rises to the heights of unforgivable slander, dominating conversation at Mary’s burlesque bachelorette party and then again at her Hollywood Hills backyard wedding. Now, Christine is setting the record straight.

When Christine met Christian, a retired tech millionaire, she was the one dating someone else, which Mary knew because the two were introduced. “I went on three dates with some guy who I went bowling with that she met,” Christine tells Bustle. “The overlap comment was actually about me, believe it or not.”

In reality, Christine met Christian through a mutual friend about a month after cameras stopped rolling on Season 1. This friend had, intriguingly, also gone on a date with Christian, but they didn’t hit it off, so she passed him off to Christine. “And then she’s like, ‘Also, he’s looking for a house.’ And I was like: double bonus,” says Christine, who ended up with a new husband, a commission on his LA mansion, and a closet to hold all 50 pairs of her Louis Vuitton slippers. “Him and I had an amazing steak dinner and got to know each other, and we just hit it off right away. He’s everything that I ever wanted.”

For fans of the show who know Christine as someone who never misses a nail appointment, what Christine wanted in a man may have come as a surprise. “I want to be with a nerd. I don’t want a hot guy,” she says before counting off all the ways she and Christian differ. For one, he hates the spotlight. “He’s the opposite of me in every way, because I love to put myself out there. I love to be fabulous. He doesn’t care about dressing up or looking good. He doesn’t care about any of that stuff. He only cares about his work and traveling,” she says. “Which I care about as well.”

Still, being on Selling Sunset was a sacrifice Christian was willing to make "out of love," Christine says. In the third season, premiering this August, he even agreed to film their gothic December wedding. (The bride wore black.) Already Christine is thinking about what comes next for the couple. She sees herself having two kids "within the next year or two" and had big travel plans for the next six months, but then lockdown happened. Instead, she’s bought a bread maker, a pasta maker, and a “whole wardrobe” of matching sweatsuits. “My quarantine is like Martha Stewart pre-jail, like 2004.”

As for all the drama that got kicked up in Season 2, Christine says Mary didn’t act like she would expect for a friend, whether or not she was genuinely confused about who was "overlapping." “It’d be one thing if she reached out and was like, ‘Hey, we’re about to film. I just want to clarify how you met Christian.’ She could have done that. She didn’t do that. Instead she just spread lies.”

But rather than wait around for an apology or even her chance at revenge, Christine is focusing on her “other really great friends [who] treat me really well.” Things with Mary are cordial enough. “She doesn’t like any of my Instagram posts. She never comments," Christine observes. “As Chrishell would say, I think we’re coexisting just fine.”

Source: Read Full Article

6 Movies to Rent From Redbox Featuring a Strong Female Lead

Deciding what to watch based on where it can be found is as much of a consideration these days as its genre. With the guaranteed availability of these movies to rent from Redbox, that decision is made for you. The following options include historical adaptations, comic book movies, and dramatic films. So what’s the common theme? These are all movies featuring a strong female lead.

‘Birds of Prey (and the Fantabulous Emancipation of One Harley Quinn)’

Yes, that is the full title of the DCEU’s 2020 film. And its lengthy name (which was changed to Harley Quinn: Birds of Prey at some theaters) wasn’t the only obstacle in its way. Shortly after its theatrical release, movie theaters worldwide were shut down due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, ending its very short run.

Fortunately, Birds of Prey is now available to rent with Redbox. The film sees Margot Robbie reprising her role from Suicide Squad — only this time, she’s on her own. Harley takes out those in her way in the name of heartbreak, injustice, and breakfast sandwiches. But like most strong female leads, she eventually realizes she can use all the friends she can get. And that’s when the fun really begins.


RELATED: Reese Witherspoon: 8 Critically Acclaimed Roles Before ‘Wild’

What’s better than a movie starring an Academy Award-winning actress who’s known for playing strong women? How about one that tells the true story of a real-life powerful woman, with a message to inspire all? That’s precisely what the 2014 film Wild delivers.

Reese Witherspoon is Cheryl Strayed, a woman who chooses to cope with difficult life changes by hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. While many are there to support her along the way, Cheryl is the epitome of a strong female lead — accepting others’ guidance and lessons but remaining true to herself as she does.

‘Whip It’

If there’s a spiritual twin film to Birds of Prey, it might be 2009’s Whip It. After all, it stars a young woman who dyes her hair blue, straps on rollerskates, and fights against whatever comes her way, along with a group of equally inspiring ladies.

This theme of female empowerment goes beyond the story itself. Not only Whip It written by a woman (and based on her own novel) and directed by another (Drew Barrymore, in her directorial debut), but it stars a host of acclaimed actresses, from Barrymore to Ellen Page to Kristen Wiig.


RELATED: Meryl Streep Brings Women’s Rights to Forefront in ‘Suffragette’

Long before women fought for bodily autonomy and equal pay, there was another fundamental human right on the table: The right to vote. The 2015 film Suffragette, about the early 20th-century movement in Great Britain, depicts some of the real-life events of that time through a fictional lens.

Carey Mulligan is Maud Watts, a young worker who finds herself becoming more and more involved in the women’s rights movement in 1912. She puts everything on the line to help her fellow woman. Meryl Streep also stars as Emmeline Pankhurst, a political activist from the time.


Continuing the tradition of stories based on real events, Amelia (2009) stars Hilary Swank as one of the most famous strong women in history: aviator Amelia Earhart. The film tells her story through flashbacks, showing her trials as she pushed to be taken seriously and achieve her goals.

‘Mad Max: Fury Road’

RELATED: Before ‘Mad Max: Fury Road’: Charlize Theron’s 5 Best Movie Roles

Though the name of the film reflects the top billing of actor Tom Hardy, Mad Max: Fury Road is as much Imperator Furiosa’s story as his. Charlize Theron portrays the lieutenant who turns on Immortan Joe, the ruler of the post-apocalyptic world, to other women’s lives. If that doesn’t convince you she’s a strong lead woman, the clip above should do the trick.

Source: Read Full Article

The Best Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

We love these products, and we hope you do too. E! has affiliate relationships, so we may get a small share of the revenue from your purchases. Items are sold by the retailer, not E!.

If you’re in the market for furniture, don’t miss out on Wayfair’s epic Memorial Day sale. They’re offering up to 70% off, plus they have a limited time flash deals section where you can score extra discounts before the time runs out.

Below, shop our best finds from with sale, with extra items from the fan-favorite Kelly Clarkson’s Wayfair line.


You Can’t Miss These Finds From Kohl’s Epic Memorial Day Sale

We love the texture of this beige area rug with black tassels. Place it in your living room or bedroom. 

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

If you need clothing storage, look no further than this garment rack. It has wood shelves for that mixed material look. 

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

Add a French country feel with this solid wood armchair. It has a traditional nailhead trim.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

If you’ve always wanted a KitchenAid stand mixer, here’s your shot. It has 10 speeds and comes in a white that matches any kitchen.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

We’re obsessed with these special dining chairs in a whitewashed hue. The caned back is super on-trend.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

Who says your desk lamp has to be basic? This option makes a statement.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

This freestanding full-length mirror adds a touch of glam. It has a wood frame covered in linen with nail-head accents.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

Add some midcentury flair with this coffee table. Its legs come in a gold finish.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

This neutral sectional will fit into your space perfectly. It comes with five accent pillows for you to play around with.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

How beautiful is this solid pine wood bed? We love the attention to detail, from its scalloped base to its arched top.

EComm: TK Finds From Wayfair's Memorial Day Sale

Looking for more Memorial Day deals? These are the best sales from A to Z.

Source: Read Full Article

From Normal People to Meghan Markle’s raunchy sex scene in Suits — the top 10 TV shows that set your pulses racing – The Sun

IT was the TV drama that made Meghan Markle a star — and now Suits has been declared one of the raunchiest-ever shows.

Viewers who watched while hooked up to a heart rate monitor saw their pulses rise by 12 beats per minute.

The US legal drama, which is on Netflix, was just one of the steamy shows that got participants in a new study the most excited.

Meghan — now the Duchess of Sussex — even gets it on inside a store cupboard.

Scenes in other hit dramas that caused pulses to race include lesbian prison romps, frisky shower sex and naked orgies.

And experts reckon that hot action on our screens is becoming the norm.

Psychotherapist Neil Wilkie says: “Sex scenes are becoming more frequent and more graphic.


“In the UK we have awoken from prudishness and want to see passion and intimacy.”

But some viewers’ hearts thump harder due to the awkwardness of watching explicit scenes with another person present.

Environmental psychologist and well-being consultant Lee Chambers says: “Sex scenes create an environment of high arousal and excitement.

“They can also create a level of anxiety if we are watching these scenes with others, which can also cause our heart to race.”

Watching sex can have a similar effect on viewers’ hearts as frightening on-screen action too.

Lee added: “Programmes that cause us to enter a high arousal positive state, such as exciting scenes, cause our blood pressure to rise and our heart rate to increase.

“This is similar for programmes that cause a high arousal negative state, such as scary scenes.”

The research for online marketplace was carried out on 1,800 UK participants who had an average resting heart rate of 81 beats per minute (BPM).

They each wore a Fitbit activity tracker to measure their pulse.

Between watching sex scenes, the participants rested so their heartbeats could return to normal.

Here, we reveal the top ten sizzling shows that made viewers’ tickers go quicker and the average heart rate for each one.

1. Orange Is The New Black

Features: Lots of lesbian sex, a drug-fuelled threesome and sex toys

It’s lockdown, but not as we know it.

The women in hit US drama are banged up in prison – and their steamy scenes have officially made the show the raunchiest programme on the telly.

Sizzling action from the Netflix show, which ended last year after seven series, scored the highest on the measure of viewers’ heart rates.

Among the eye-popping scenes is a lesbian romp between Alex Vause (Laura Prepon) and her on-off girlfriend, middle-class lag Piper Chapman, who is played by Taylor Schilling, who also romps with Stella Carlin (Ruby Rose). The lusty couple even manage to get it on while in the prison chapel. Heavens above!

Other X-rated moments feature romps between prison guards and inmates, a drug-fuelled threesome and a butch, middle-aged lesbian using a sex aid on herself.

Neil Wilkie, author of Reset: The Relation-ship Paradigm, says: “The scenes in Orange Is The New Black win the hottest contest because the sex scenes in the show were intense, unexpected and – as it was lesbian sex – unusual on TV.

“It was a shock, so they really got the adrenalin flowing and the heart pumping.”

BPM: 101

2. Shameless

Features: Threesomes, toys and a days-long sex marathon

As you can guess from the title, Shameless isn’t scared to push boundaries. Set on a fictional council estate in Manchester, Channel 4’s black comedy follows the lives of the Gallagher clan.

Its naughty scenes include threesomes, sex toy sessions, a sex marathon lasting days and a hook-up on a professor’s desk.

Martina Laird played Michelle Critch- all, the owner of a male escort agency who wasn’t afraid of getting to grips with her employees, above.

The show is so raunchy that it has become a hit on sex site Pornhub, with a compilation of its more explicit moments amassing more than 2.4 million views.

BPM: 96

3. Game of Thrones

Features: Orgies, full nudity and disturbing incest

The fantasy series gripped the world with its epic scope – and frequent full nudity. A few of the many sex scenes stood out.

Oberyn, Ellaria and Olyvar enjoyed an orgy with several prostitutes in a brothel, while Daenerys Targaryen learned all about sex with her handmaid.

Daenerys, played by Emilia Clarke, and Jon Snow (Kit Harington) romped at the finale of the seventh series. Some of the sex scenes were disturbing, including a heated affair between siblings Cersei and Jaime Lannister.

The series also shows several gay sex scenes, with one between Loras and Renly proving particularly intimate.

BPM: 95

4. Normal People

Features: 41 minutes of ‘realistic’ sex scenes

The hit BBC Three drama follows the turbulent love story of working-class lad Connell (Paul Mescal) and well-heeled teen Marianne (Daisy Edgar-Jones), both left, in a fictional Irish town.

Sex, kissing and foreplay takes up 12 per cent of the show’s screen time – but critics praised its realistic portrayals of intimacy.

Relationship expert Neil Wilkie says: “The first scenes show the awkwardness between Marianne, the shy, odd virgin, and hunky but uncommunicative Connell.

“The sex is unhurried and detailed. It feels real.”

BPM: 93

5. Suits

Features: Meghan Markle in a steamy workplace romp

Before she became a member of the Royal Family, Meghan set pulses racing with her sex scenes in the US legal drama.

Her character Rachel Zane has an intense relationship with her law firm colleague Mike Ross, played by Patrick J. Adams.

The pair have a passionate and playful time together – even stripping off for risky sex in a storeroom cupboard.

Meghan, now the Duchess of Sussex, is currently in lockdown in LA with Prince Harry and their one-year-old son Archie. She was so sexy in Suits that Harry was said to have lusted over her for two years before meeting her.

BPM: 93

6. Outlander

Features: Outdoor romp and nudity

Starting in the 18th century, this US time travel fantasy spans 200 years – and it did not shy away from showing lots of sex.

The plot follows the love story of Claire and Jamie Fraser, played by Caitriona Balfe and Jamie Fraser.

Claire takes her husband’s virginity on their wedding night and they are seen getting intimate in almost every episode, including an outdoor romp. But there are a fair few disturbing scenes as well.

One, which is very close to the line, shows Jamie spanking his wife before she turns the tables and holds a knife to his throat as they once again get intimate.

BPM: 92

7. Sex Education

Features: Solo sex acts, lesbian kisses and ‘orgasm faces’

In an unflinching look into the sex-obsessed lives of hormonal teenagers, the Netflix series features intimate and often awkward moments – from first-time sex right through to experienced clinches.

Following the lives of insecure teenager Otis – above, with Ola – his sex-therapist mum and his pals, the show featured 15 X-rated scenes in the opening three minutes of its second series.

There are solo sex scenes throughout. It has been ap-plauded for its portrayal of LGBTQ sex, with numerous frank discussions between characters.

Stand-out moments include Ola and Lily’s first passionate kiss, Aimee finally discovering how to climax – while guiding her boyfriend through it – and the moment when Olivia finds the courage to embrace her “orgasm face”.

BPM: 91

8. Jessica Jones

Features: Rough, bed-breaking sex

Even superhero Jessica Jones has raunchy sex scenes, like the one pictured, to set pulses racing, and this series from Netflix had them from the first episode.

Jessica (played by Krysten Ritter) enjoyed a passionate romp with fellow superhero Luke Cage (Mike Colter) in episode one, and it was just the first of many more to come.

Later they got so passionate they broke the bed, while another scene showed Luke throw her against a wall, breaking glass, luckily without injury. She is a superhero, after all.

BPM: 90

9. Queer As Folk

Features: Lots of groundbreaking gay sex scenes

The Nineties drama sparked controversy with its graphic gay sex scenes but is now regarded as groundbreaking.

It ran for two series in 1999 and 2000, charting the lives of three gay men living on Manchester’s Canal Street.

The most notorious scene featured Charlie Hunnam as 15-year-old Nathan and Aidan Gillen’s older guy Stuart.

A very explicit scene of the pair in bed ignited a storm of protest from some viewers.

BPM: 89

10. Girls

Features: Role-play, bathroom solo and kitchen sink sex

The HBO comedy drama series held nothing back when it came to its string of very X-rated sex scenes.

While at least two showed Marnie leaning over her kitchen sink for some very rushed sex, another awkward one saw Hannah’s parents get frisky in the shower.

Elsewhere, Hannah was seen energetically bedding Adam and attempting role-play as she wore an icy blonde wig to reignite her sex life, while Marnie was even filmed having rapid solo sex in a public toilet.

BPM: 88

Source: Read Full Article

Debby Ryan and Josh Dun From Twenty One Pilots Secretly Married on New Year's Eve

Debby Ryan has been making the rounds on the internet recently because of that *one* meme, but today she’s trending for an entirely different reason. As it turns out, Debby Ryan is officially Mrs. Debby Dun, because she officially tied the knot—in secret, might I add—with Josh Dun from Twenty One Pilots!

In an interview Vogue, Debby revealed that she and Josh’s wedding took place on New Year’s Eve, and they planned the entire thing in a whopping 28 days. But despite the short amount of time to plan, the ceremony and party looked absolutely stunning. (You can check out the pics here.)

Source: Read Full Article

Mum who almost died from alcohol addiction warns of dangers of lockdown drinking

A fitness model and mum-of-two who was once struggled with a near-fatal alcohol addiction has posted a stark warning about drinking too much during lockdown.

Justine Whitchurch, from the Gold Coast, Australia, posted on Instagram about the dangers of mothers using alcohol as a coping mechanism during the pandemic.

The 47-year-old revealed that she had a dangerous addiction that saw her ‘medicate with alcohol 24/7’ – so it worries her when she sees posts about alcohol being the ‘one thing’ saving mothers from the ‘misery of isolation’.

‘This is an epidemic that will long surpass the pandemic,’ wrote Justine in an Instagram post.

‘I saw a post from someone on Mother’s Day that referred to her children as being her reasons for “being” and her reasons for “drinking”. 

‘I can’t help but feel the most immense sense of anger every single time I see this kind of notion,’ Justine continued. 

The 47-year-old said messages like this teach children that ‘alcohol is the only answer to frustration and overwhelm’.

‘You can laugh it off, put it in a meme, throw it away as a tagline in conversation and downplay its validity all you like, but the end result is simply a disastrous educational tool for the people that we love the most,’ Justine added. 

‘I preach about this because this was my path.’

Up until seven years ago, Justine was using alcohol to cope with everyday situations – she says her children saw every day, and it was teaching them that it was normal behaviour.

‘My habits would have turned into their habits and I still feel sick to the stomach that this may have been their fate,’ she added in her post.

‘What you are teaching your children is that alcohol is the ONLY answer to frustration and overwhelm. It is as simple as that. 

‘And this is the dangerous introduction to chemically relieved coping mechanisms brought to them by YOU!’

Justine said she realises not everyone who posts on Facebook about alcohol has a problem, but she says she has been receiving messages every day from men and women who are privately struggling to get their alcohol intake under control during lockdown.

‘The more people who have underlying problems feel “normalised” and “accepted” through social means with what they are doing, the longer they will partake and not address the true issue,’ Justine said.

‘Stop the cycle now by creating healthy habits you are PROUD to pass on.’ 

View this post on Instagram

The epidemic that will long surpass the pandemic. I have often been referred to as the ‘truth speaker’ and I am learning to become comfortable with that. Because the alternative for me would not see me showing true authenticity and perhaps saving another human from the misery and despair that I found myself in not so many years ago. This post will probably ignite a debate and if not, provoke thought which is exactly my intention. Amongst a million and one quotes that I have seen during this pandemic referring to alcohol as the one thing that is saving them from their misery of isolation and home schooling, I saw posts from a number of Mum’s on Mother’s Day that referred to their children as being their reasons for ‘being’ and their reasons for ‘drinking’. I can’t help but feel the most immense sense of anger every single time I see this kind of notation. I’ll tell you why. What you are teaching your children is that alcohol is the ONLY answer to frustration and overwhelm.  It is as simple as that.  And this is the dangerous introduction to chemically relieved coping mechanisms brought to them by YOU! You can laugh it off, put it in a meme, throw it as a tag line in a conversation and downplay its validity all you like, but the end result is simply a disastrous educational tool for the people that we love the most. I receive numerous messages every day from women (and men) who are privately struggling to get their alcohol intake under control.  What started as a ‘wind down’ at the end of the day is now the only trick they have up their sleeve to cope with the basics of life.  Add a pandemic to the mix and the compulsion to block it all out is real.  But one of the key themes to their conversation is how they want to show a better example to their kids.  Further adding that they have slowly recognised that what they believed was once a well-hidden little habit, was now being questioned by little eyes and ears that are now being affected by their actions. More in comments.

A post shared by Justine Whitchurch (@jusswhitchurch) on

Justine said the people who are messaging her about their drinking all say that they want to show a better example to their kids.

‘They have slowly recognised that what they believed was once a well-hidden little habit, was now being questioned by little eyes and ears that are now being affected by their actions,’ she said.

‘What we need to create is a safe space and a sense of belonging for those that no longer want to cope with life with alcohol by ensuring that these kind of memes and messages are not pushing them into further isolation.’

View this post on Instagram

Faux pas. We’re all human. We all slip up from time to time, but the most common mistake we make when it comes to committing to a goal is how we react when we stumble. When we stray the most important thing to do is look in the mirror and ask why. How did it happen? What can I do to prevent this happening again? 🔹The more you justify your faux pas the less value it holds. 🔹The less value it holds the more likely you are to do it again. 🔹The more frequently you do it the further away you are from where you want to be. Then inevitably you tell yourself it doesn’t really matter anyway. My own personal faux pas was a culmination of all of the above. A tsunamis of excuses, sadness, desperation and in the end the only person that could save myself was me. Little by little I took accountability. The person on the left had a lifestyle that was miserable, unmanageable and seeing her into to an early grave. The one on the right radiates happiness , internal peace and coping mechanisms to take life by the horns. My 12 Week Online VIP Program kicks off next Monday 7th January. Places are limited and they are filling fast. If you'd like to be guided by a coach that has been called more than once, the 'truth' speaker, register your interest by using this web link or emailing me (in the bio). It's time. . #fitmum #healthymindhealthybody #sober #onlinecoach #mentor #over40 #transformation #itstime

A post shared by Justine Whitchurch (@jusswhitchurch) on

The post has amassed hundreds of likes and comments, with many people agreeing and questioning their own habits.

‘Very well written,’ wrote one woman. ‘I have definitely been struggling and I have been thinking a lot of late how my kids see me drinking. Day 3 sober and focused on going one day at a time.’

‘I’m so glad I gave up drinking,’ commented another. ‘It has given me so much appreciation for life. And awakened me to a lot of bullshit I believed for too many years.’

Lots of people of drinking more in lockdown, and doctors have issued warnings about the health consequences of excessive alcohol consumption.

If you are worried about your drinking, talk to someone. Speak to your GP via a video appointment, or call one of the official helplines.

Source: Read Full Article

Allow Dayna From ‘Vanderpump Rules’ To Teach You How To Deal With Noncommittal Men

Dayna Kathan isn’t taking anyone‘s sh*t on Vanderpump Rules — especially all the LA f*ckboys. Though she initially made the mistake of ignoring all of Max’s red flags, she cut things off as soon as she saw signs of trouble and quickly rebounded with fellow SURver Brett, even going so far as telling him she wishes she would have met him before Max.

Alas, this also turned out to be a mistake. During the May 12 episode, Max confronted Dayna at a group dinner about hooking up with Brett — his best friend — despite first saying he didn’t care and then only vaguely conveying that he was "cool with it but also not." Dayna tried to explain that she doesn’t owe him anything… only for Brett to blurt out that he doesn’t actually have any feelings for her, confusing Dayna and everyone else at the table.

But despite her missteps (hey, everyone falls for it sometimes!), Dayna knows how to handle noncommittal men: by kicking them to the curb. She could have stuck around and tried to sort out whatever foolery is happening with Brett and Max, but she knows it’s not worth her time. "I have two guys that are half-committing, which is not one whole man," Dayna told Katie at Sandoval’s pool party. "I’m hot. Someone should be f*cking me and loving me, and nobody is doing either of those things, so…" Boy(s), bye.

This isn’t how it typically goes on Vanderpump Rules. Stassi had to kiss several frogs (Patrick, Frank) before meeting Beau. Carter is like a cockroach — Kristen can’t get rid of him. Brittany married Jax. Granted, most of them are now in solid relationships (or in Brittany’s case, a rollercoaster marriage), but they could still all learn a little bit from Dayna. Scheana, are you taking notes?

Source: Read Full Article

Ticket office worker dies from Covid-19 after man spat at her

Railway ticket office worker, 47, dies of coronavirus after man who said he had virus SPAT at her in Victoria Station – as police launch hunt for Covid thug

  • Belly Mujinga, 47, was spat at on the concourse of Victoria Station in March 
  • Days later she had fallen ill, along with her colleague who was also spat at
  • Ms Mujinga was admitted to Barnet Hospital, where she died on April 5 
  • British Transport Police only launched an investigation on Monday  
  • Here’s how to help people impacted by Covid-19

A railway ticket officer has died from Covid-19 after a man who said he was infected spat at her and a colleague at London Victoria Station.  

Belly Mujinga, 47, was on the concourse of the station in March when a member of the public who said he had Covid-19 spat and coughed at her and a colleague.Within days of the assault, both women fell ill with the virus.

Police have launched an investigation this week, nearly two months after the incident, as there was no report at the time.

Belly Mujinga died after she and a colleague were spat at by a man at London Victoria Station who was infected with Covid-19

The Transport Salaried Staffs Association said Ms Mujinga’s 

Ms Mujinga, who had underlying respiratory problems, was admitted to Barnet Hospital and put on a ventilator but died on April 5, her trade union, the Transport Salaried Staffs Association (TSSA), said.

Ten people attended her funeral.

British Transport Police says the incident was not reported at the time on March 22, but has now launched an investigation to find the suspect. 

A spokesman from BTP said: ‘We have now launched an investigation into a report of two members of rail staff being spat at while working at London Victoria station on 22 March. One of the victims, a 47-year-old woman, very sadly died in hospital on April 5.’  

The union has reported the incident to the Railways Inspectorate, the safety arm of the Office for Road and Rail (ORR), for investigation and is taking legal advice on the situation.

TSSA general secretary Manuel Cortes said: ‘We are shocked and devastated at Belly’s death. She is one of far too many frontline workers who have lost their lives to coronavirus.

‘The Health Secretary, Matt Hancock, recently announced that £60,000 would be paid to the survivors of health and care workers who die as a result of the pandemic.

‘Our view is that this compensation should be extended to the families of all frontline workers who perish trying to keep our country and vital services going.

‘Sadly, Belly’s is just one of many family tragedies where children have had their parents taken away from them.

‘However, there are serious questions about her death; it wasn’t inevitable.

‘As a vulnerable person in the ‘at risk’ category, and her condition known to her employer, there are questions about why she wasn’t stood down from frontline duties early on in this pandemic.

‘Rather than talking about the easing the lockdown, the government must first ensure that the right precautions and protections have been taken so that more lives are not lost.

‘Anyone who is vulnerable should remain at home and home working should be the default wherever possible.

‘Our rail industry needs to have a very serious look at what tasks are deemed ‘essential’ and must put protections in place for all our members and our passengers.’

Anyone who saw Ms Mujinga being spat can contact BTP by texting 61016 or calling 0800 40 50 40 quoting reference 359 of 11/05/20.

Source: Read Full Article